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✳ "COPING AHEAD: REQUIRES IMAGINATIVE HOPE & DARING OPTIMISM! "What's the BEST possible outcome?" CONSIDER THAT FIRST! The ULTIMATE GOAL IS TO MAKE THAT THE REALITY, AS WE HEAL THE PTSD WOUNDS & ACCEPT REALITY RADICALLY!!
✳ BUT we MUST ALSO be REALISTIC with our UNHEALED self, AS we recover. It TAKES TIME. SO, we must ALSO imagine USING ALL OUR COPING SKILLS in those potential crisis events, & DISCERNING/ WRITING DOWN THE MOST REASONABLE OPTIONS FOR EACH. Then PRACTICE!!
✳ REALITY ACCEPTANCE SKILLS are a COMPLEMENT to ALL THESE CRISIS SURVIVAL SKILLS!! THESE HELP YOU COPE WITH IMMEDIATE INTENSE DISTRESS; R.A.S. HELP YOU IN THE NEXT MOMENTS!
✳ "RECOVERY" FROM OVERWHELM/ SEVERE TRIGGERS MIGHT TAKE SEVERAL HOURS, EVEN DAYS, AT FIRST, SO MAKE SURE YOU REST/ RELAX/ RECHARGE AS PART OF COPING!!! AND SET BOUNDARIES TO DO THIS WHEN NECESSARY, FIRMLY!
✳ LET YOURSELF DO THINGS YOU ENJOY. Frequently, feeling "TRAPPED/ STUCK" is a DIRECT RESULT of "NOT GOING INSIDE" where life FREELY FLOWS. When irritability spikes, DO SOMETHING FOR YOU. Read something you LOVE. Listen to a FAVORITE song that you WANT to hear RIGHT NOW. Do LEAGUEWORK. Go to the COLOR REALMS & just CHILL. Spend time just BEING WITH THE SYSTEM, realizing that YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE "DOING" ALL THE TIME!!

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✳ WHAT DBT CRISIS SKILLS WOULD BE MOST EFFECTIVE IN A PARTICULAR CRISIS EVENT? DISCERN REALISTICALLY BY PRACTICING "COPING AHEAD" WITH EACH!!
✳ When UP THE HOUSE, we have to "COPE IN ACTION" so USE T.I.P. & SELF-SOOTHE SKILLS! The MORE we RELEASE TENSION, CULTIVATE CALM, & CHERISH THE ACTUAL PHYSICAL ENVIRONMENT, the MORE we will LEARN to ACTUALLY LOVE & ENJOY OUR TIME THERE, LETTING GO OF THE PTSD!
✳ WHEN WE ARE HAVING A FLASHBACK, SAY SO OUT LOUD & then GO UPSTAIRS. SIT WITH THIS & FEEL/ TALK IT OUT, then WRITE/ RECORD our memory/ thoughts ASAP. ALSO. DON'T ISOLATE. IF THE FAM IS CONCERNED, BE OPEN & HONEST. THEY WERE PART OF YOUR PAST AND REMAIN PART OF YOUR PRESENT!! KEEP THEM IN THE LOOP OF RECOVERY-- THEY ARE A KEY PART OF YOUR HEALING! IF THEY want to talk it out, DO SO.
✳ We need to get REALLY GOOD at "SPLITSECOND" PROS & CONS!! The HOLY SPIRIT WILL speak the TRUTH into your heart about this. HOWEVER we WILL have "extended time" situations AT HOME, such as NIGHT FLASHBACKS, POSTPRANDIAL PANIC, and INTERIM DREAD. When those HIT, we CAN & SHOULD STOP (literally) & S.T.O.P., and AS PART OF THE PROCEEDING MINDFULLY, WRITE OUT PROS & CONS. The MORE OFTEN we do that, EVEN for the SAME TRIGGERS, the BETTER we WILL GET at SPLIT SECOND "WISDOM" as to the PROPER ACTION-- which we DO know intuitively, BUT we NEED the REASONABLE DATA to COUNTERACT the EMOTIONAL MIND "BLIND REACTION."
✳ I.M.P.R.O.V.E. & A.C.C.E.P.T.S. are better for EXTENDED CRISIS SITUATIONS, as their SKILLSET is ALSO EXTENDED. This is when we have an "IMPENDING" CRISIS (like a few hours/ days away), &/OR when we're HAUNTED by flashbacks/ triggers, like on HOT SUMMER DAYS or when it's HALLOWEEN, etc.
✳ I.M.P.R.O.V.E. skills CAN be INSTANTLY EXERCISED & STACKED. The only "extended" one-- VACATION-- should be an "EMERGENCY PAUSE BUTTON" when we NEED SHEER SPACE between us & a trigger situation that TAKES SPACE/ TIME AS WELL: like GOING SOMEWHERE NON-SUMMERY or FAR AWAY FROM HALLOWEEN DECOR or similar things. BUT the VACATION is ALSO A FOUNDATION in which to PRACTICE OTHER SKILLS, such as COPING AHEAD, PRAYER, MEANING, etc. STILL, LET YOURSELF RELAX & CLEAR YOUR HEAD FIRST!!!
✳ A.C.C.E.P.T.S. skills are more LONGTERM & HABITUAL??? The MORE positive actions/ contributions/ emotions/ etc. we SCHEDULE INTO OUR DAY, the MORE AWARE we are of our progress/ wonder of creation/ center, and the MORE we ACTIVELY think about/ do POSITIVE & CREATIVE things, the EASIER it WILL BE to COPE IN GENERAL?? because our FOCUS & LIFE DIRECTION & THOUGHTS & EMOTIONS are ORIENTED FIRMLY & HABITUALLY ON THE GOOD, & WON'T BE SHAKEN SO EASILY. So DO THESE DAILY!!
✳ DON'T FORGET DEEP BREATHING + MINDFULNESS + WILLING HANDS/ WILLINGNESS TO "LAY THE FOUNDATION" FOR SKILL USE IN A CRISIS! It's ALL FAITH IN GOD'S PROVIDENCE = "THY WILL BE DONE"!! THAT IS THE MAIN NECESSARY THING. WITHOUT IT, ALL ELSE COLLAPSES.

✳ STACK PRAYER & MEANING WITH EVERYTHING, AND ALWAYS USE T.I.P./ S.T.O.P./ SOOTHE TO SOOTHE THE BODY TOO