e.d. problem notes

[prismaticbleed]

eating disorder problems. FIXING THEM! 

- stress is IN THE TEETH. wreckage is the one who holds that anger, also in the hands, but algorith holds that mostly. nevertheless, the oldest stress-relief mechanism was BITING, from way back in the childhood. it was one coping mechanism that was always available and could not be taken away from us.

- Wreckage discovered WHY we keep specifically going after oats as a 'biting food,' AND ONLY when it's thickened (adding things like cinnamon, other foods, etc.) It's because, when it gets thick like that, the consistency and texture IS ALMOST IDENTICAL TO THE ARM. Dead serious.

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(snips from online)

Just changing the behaviours just papers over the cracks. It was by dealing with the deep feelings around the old hurts plus stopping behaviours that I got better. I think Maudlsey as a solution is more suitable for the very young or those ED's that are very simple and not trauma related.

Stopping behaviours is never easy though. There is no short cut or magic solution.

The other reason they like doing it before dealing with the trauma is the following: ED's are ways of dealing with emotion and overwhelm. They become deeply entrenched ways of coping. When we start dealing with trauma our emotions and overwhelm increases drastically. That can be very dangerous for someone with an ed as symptoms can get severe and stop treatment or cause serious health concerns. I know many people with severe chronic Ed's that have stopped behaviours and needed to stop behaviours before dealing with the severe trauma they have experienced.

Ed's are also a little like drugs in that they hide real feelings and issues. So having trauma T without actively stopping behaviours can distort what one is really dealing with. Ones personality and everything is different without behaviours. Drug treatment requires that the person is sober and there is much in that that is relevant for ED's in the longer term.

This is my advise to you and from someone who wasted too much of her life and health to ED: do whatever you can to learn new ways of coping and stop behaviours. It is not easy but it can be done and you can do it. You can do this whilst dealing with your trauma and the EFT.